Why we complain is rarely the story we tell ourselves about it. Leadership consultant Rachel Levy draws the line between the complaint you can hear and the one underneath it, and that second one is where the real conversation lives.

What is it like to be in a room where someone is filling up with pressure and nothing you say makes it better? Or to be the person filling up? Rachel Levy calls complaining a form of bonding, a signal, and sometimes a drug. The difference between those three things is the difference between letting a little air out and watching the whole balloon go.

Every chronic complaint has something specific underneath it. The question is not how to stop complaining. It is how to get fluent enough in what the complaint is actually saying to give it a real answer.

Topics: why we complain, chronic complaining, workplace complaints, complaining psychology, how to handle complainers

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Originally aired on2026-03-23